I hope you enjoy the below periodically changing reflections.
No matter where you are on your journey,
they are meant to inspire and to ease your path.
The word intimacy is often described as "into me I see" to make the direct point that intimacy begins with knowing the intricate nooks and crannies of oneself. Only by knowing yourself well can you then really "see" or know another. So emotional intimacy demands a big risk: a willingness to traverse the corners of one's own personal reality, which means an earnest commitment to recognize and track bodily-based feelings.
Repeatedly feeling unsafe in a family teaches a child to "leave" his or her body - to dissociate - as a way to survive. The process of dissociation is an elegant mechanism built into the human psychological system as a form of escape from (sometimes literally) going crazy. The problem with checking out so thoroughly is that it can leave us feeling dead inside, with little or no ability to feel our feelings in our bodies. The process of repair demands a re-association with the body, a commitment to dive into the body and feel today what we couldn't feel yesterday because it was too dangerous.
Connecting to your bodily-based feelings really allows you to "see" inside yourself. How often have you had a "gut" feeling, felt tight in your chest, or had "butterflies" in your stomach when you knew something bad was happening or going to happen? All of these are your reality, which is different than what you think is going on. Connecting with another from this deep place inside you, where your truth and reality reside, is the beginning of emotional intimacy. Communicating your deepest feelings and risking being known - fears and all - will have you feeling closer and more in love with your partner than you can imagine. When the body speaks the truth, you're in your center. And it's from that center that you can love and be loved.
~ Alexandra Katehakis & Tom Bliss
Mirror of Intimacy - Daily Reflections
I AFFIRM THE WISDOM OF MY INNER VOICE.
Today I affirm the wisdom of my inner voice and the richness of the basic intelligence my Higher Power has given me. When I listen to my inner voice and exercise my intelligence, I make very good decisions.
As a child, I was taught not to think for myself, not to trust or value my own inner voice. My parents fostered dependence and I discounted my own wisdom. I came to rely exclusively on others' input for my decisions.
As I grew into adulthood, I silenced my intuition altogether and, as a result, made many poor decisions that caused me pain. I have since learned from my mistakes and have at last come to trust the wisdom of my inner voice. It is a powerful ally on my journey through life, prompting me to make sustaining and nurturing decisions and helping me to avoid destructive ones.
Today I will affirm the wisdom of my inner voice and honor my ability to make good decisions.
~ Rokelle Lerner
Affirmations for the Inner Child
I AM SAFE.
At any moment we have the opportunity of choosing love or fear. In moments of fear, I remember the sun. It is always shining even though clouds may obscure it for a while. Like the sun, the One Infinite Power is eternally shining its light upon me, even though clouds of negative thinking may temporarily obscure it. I choose to remember the Light. I feel secure in the Light. And when the fears come, I choose to see them as passing clouds in the sky, and I let them go on their way. I am not my fears. It is safe for me to live without guarding and defending myself all the time. I know that what we do in our hearts is very important, so I begin every day in a silent connection with my heart. When I feel afraid I open my heart and let the love dissolve the fear.
~ Louise Hay
Meditations to Heal Your Life